I’ve got some “DD” things to share, but had this post half written so thought I’d finish it up before going on to kinkier things! By the way, our party (283. We are three), is tonight. All the preparations are done and it looks like the weather is going to cooperate.
I was having another one of those in-depth conversation with one of my sisters regarding my choices in life. Yes, it had many of the same questions and issues she raised previously (Post 200. Balloons and Submission for one). But this time, most of her concerns centered around nudity. Her concerns were prompted by the fact that T&E’s home (my son and soon-to-be daughter-in-law) has jokingly become the “family commune.”
That is, it’s a place people in the family go to get away and relax. I shared previously that the they bought a house on about 50 acres, and plan to have a small farm — beehives, some pigs, and chickens. Both of them work full time jobs, so the farm is more a hobby and will be fairly small in scale. Oh, and by the way, their wedding is in two weeks.
I also shared that E grew up in a naturist family — both her parents grew up that way and their relatives on both side are immersed in the naturist lifestyle with few exceptions. T has adopted this, and subsequently so have we. You can read all about this in several posts I’ve made — 227. Naturism Rant, 233. Meet the Nudies, 242. On the Nudie Farm, 250. The Nude Normal, 252. Naked Caravan, 255. Vacation Naked, 264. Won’t you be my (nude) neighbor?
Wow, has this turned into a nudist blog? Ha!
Anyway — as shared in 252. Naked Carvan, many of my nieces and nephews made the trek to T&E’s house in part to chip in and help out with renovations and clearing some of the land, and in part to just have fun and hang out. Most of them are young adults ranging from early 20’s to early 30’s. One niece, my sister’s daughter, is 17. And yes, when in Rome, you do as the Romans do…or in this case, when at T&E’s, you do as the nudist’s do. They all got naked.
Since that initial visit, it’s a rare weekend that T&E don’t have some guests — one of T’s cousin’s spending a day or two. Sometimes they even bring a friend. And far from feeling intruded upon, T&E both love this as they like the idea of their house being a gathering place. And despite some reservations, there are times my sister has allowed her 17-year old to visit and spend a day or even night on the farm – and she has also brought a friend with her (female friend).
Well, unbeknownst to my sister, on one of her daughter’s day trips to the farm she went with her boyfriend. My niece eventually told her mom (my sis) after the fact, and it didn’t sit well with her. My sister knows her daughter is having sex, so it isn’t that fact that disturbs her. It is just the idea of “flaunting their bodies” in front of each other and the “obviously sexually charged atmosphere” of it all.
MY NUDISM RANT
My sisters are pretty good at pushing my buttons and sending me on a rant (120. Is this submissive a feminist? MAGA rant). And so I proceeded along the lines of what I posted in Post 227. Naturism Rant.
In her mind, the get-a-ways to the farm are nothing more than a sex filled day of debauchery. I tried to explain that nudism and sex are distinct, and in fact, nudism serves to de-sexualize nudity, not hyper-sexualize it.
I told my sister her reaction is based on preconceived notions about nudity that conjure up feelings of shame, embarrassment, guilt, and sex. Heck, even the bible tells us about the moment humans first “realized” they were naked, quickly followed by the moment they were first ashamed of being naked.
In her mind, showing off a naked body sends out sexual signals that threaten the security of relationships and mankind. And what better way to suppress nudity than to use shame, as shame is the ideal emotion to enforce any code of conduct. Shame sucks – and we tend to want to avoid feeling it at all costs.
Well, whether it is shame of nakedness or shame over our kinks or shame over anything else — we are not born with shame. Instead, we learn it. And the shame we learn is artificial — there should be no shame in it. It only exists because we agree it exists and we agree it exists as a way of controlling conduct. (And you can easily substitute the word “sin” for “shame,” but I won’t go there).
At one time I was right there with sis – I felt the shame in it as well. Hell, I know that is exactly why we made nudity part of my duties in my DD. It was a way to feel some degree of shame or humbleness. Well, since adopting nudism, I do not get any “kink” or “submissive” satisfaction from being naked. That “shame” feeling has been purged.
And nothing changed, except my perception – which is what makes “shame” such a false feeling when it comes to nudity. There is nothing shameful about it. Only your perception makes it so. And to justify that feeling, we then attach all sorts of terrible things to nakedness — it must be sexual, it must be prurient, it must weaken the fibers of society, it must be a contributor to all that is bad, etc, etc. Well that’s just crap, and I told her so.
Not to be so naive, I did concede that sure, her daughter might have had sex when she went to T&E’s with her boyfriend, no more than they might do so anytime they have the chance. I mean, they are teenagers! But if they did, it wasn’t because of the nudity.
Ultimately, I urged my sister to spend a day at T&E’s, nude herself. And not just holed up in their house, but go about the property, visit with E’s cousin’s (who live next door – 233. Meet the Nudies, Even go there with her daughter and her daughter’s boyfriend!
I said that knowing that while she might give it a try herself, there was no way she would do so with her daughter’s boyfriend along. But my sister surprised me. “Okay, if V (her husband) is up for it, we’ll make a go at it, including inviting her boyfriend.” My jaw dropped. I thought she was kidding. But not only wasn’t she kidding, but she actually followed through.
To make a long story short — they spent a weekend at T&E’s – two days/one night.
SIS GETS NAKED
My sister came back with mixed reviews, but with some changes in her attitude about nudism. She agreed she was starting to feel more comfortable and less self-conscious towards the end, but still wasn’t fully comfortable. However, she really focused on everyone else and could see just how “normal” everyone else treated the nudity around them. She could see that there weren’t “sexual sparks flying around.” She even admitted there was an element of fun for her and her husband.
And she admitted her self-consciousness started to morph towards self-affirmation regarding her body image. She is a little overweight, and is 57, so was admittedly uneasy. And while she never got 100% comfortable, the comfort she saw in others made her want to try this again and get to their level of comfort.
I am so proud of her for being willing to “risk it” and give this go. She also had wonderful things to say about T&E and had many of the same wonderful observations that I already shared about E’s cousin’s (The Nudies).
A few days after my sisters return from T&E’s, she said she looks forward to visiting them again some time soon, and, told me that perhaps they would join us if we decided to do a nude vacation again.
Wow. I am so surprised, but elated. It reconfirmed my experience that nudism is addicting, and after a surprisingly very little adjustment period, feels so natural and so uplifting. You become a walking self-affirmation and have this tremendous sense of freedom, a sense of being one with the people and nature around you. I believe this is why Mike took to it, much to my surprise, and why my sister seems to taking to it, even more to my surprise!
I definitely recommend everyone give nudism a try.