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125. Kayla’s Immersion (and “slappy” anniversary to me!)

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Wow, almost 3 weeks between posts.  That’s a record for me.  

Couple of reasons for this respite.  Same old, “life got busy” stuff but also we had flu bug hit our house.  First me, then my son.  It probably accounted for about four or five days of being all off schedule.  Then there was just other things we can file under “stuff happens” that kept me at bay.

The most noteworthy item regarding my DD household will, of course, be about Kayla.  But before that….

Slappy Anniversary!
Oh, by the way, March 17 was the two-year anniversary of us adopting a lifestyle of Domestic Discipline!   Still loving it and I can’t imagine myself living any other way!

Okay, back to Kayla…
Her original “contract” is up soon and she has been anxious to update and replace it. She found this “play” checklist that she used to articulate her desires and limits, and suffice to say, there were only a few things on this checklist that she marked “no.”   It really is a well thought out list.  I encourage you to check out it.  

For some of the items it was a “yes, but…” but again, very few no’s.  Kayla has recognized that she has a desire for a much deeper submission a more Master/slave versus Dominant/submissive.  Much like my Submissive Frenzy, and my subsequent M/s immersion, she is craving more subjugation.  Before she codified her terms of subjugation, I strongly encouraged her to have her own M/s immersion.  I wanted her to first experience some of the things she was craving and make sure they really “scratched the itch” in the way she anticipated.  

Spring Break gave us a great opportunity to do this “immersion” as there was a three-day period where J would not be with us.  He and his cousins were spending time at my parents.  Let the immersion begin. 

I am not going to share many details as those details are about Kayla’s journey, not mine. But I will share a few observations.

KAYLA PREPARES
Kayla went in confident that the immersion was an introduction to a new way of living versus just a trail that would soon end.  She prepared herself in some pretty extreme ways. She shaved off all her hair, from head to toe.  She got her nipples and her clit pierced, which is a fun story by itself that I’ll try to remember to post about later.  Just know that Kayla, who can take a spanking like pro, is not fond of needles and didn’t even get her ears pierced until she was 17.   She would tell you that she had more trepidation over getting those piercings than she had about the immersion.  

For me the most extreme things was shaving her head and eyebrows.  She said she wanted to look different and to her it represented starting anew and growing anew.  It was very emotional for her.  She cried when she first looked in the mirror, but not in a sad way.  She said she was overwhelmed with a euphoria and a sort of extra sensory reaction from seeing the visual representation of starting a new journey.   It wasn’t a bawling type of cry.  She was smiling and chuckling as tears streamed down her face.

We got a general agreement as to what she was looking for in her immersion. She didn’t want to give Mike or me too many specific requests or guidelines.  Through the checklist she told us what would be acceptable, plus she went over a range of ‘acts of service” that she wanted to have expected of her, and sexually she said she was completely at Mike’s disposal for anything, any time,  – and anyone – that he commanded.  She wanted to be surprised and have her limits pushed.  So push we did, especially Mike. 

KAYLA’S IMMERSION
I am not comfortable sharing much about it.  I think perhaps in some ways it is because it was more than what I would want for myself, so I have a little harder time connecting to it enthusiastically.  I also had to see Mike be the Master and again, in ways that were more than I would want for him.   I had to keep my mind focused on Kayla’s wishes and focused on her happiness.  Spoiler alert – she was happy with the entire experience.  However, I still don’t have the enthusiasm to write about it, plus, it was such a personal journey for her that I don’t want to risk diminishing it through my own interpretations.  It was something for her and not intended for me, so why risk taking her experience from her through my own analysis of it?  

The things she did and had done to her were very intense, both physically and emotionally. So much so I don’t even want to relive it in writing.  There were a couple of times I told Mike I thought it was too much, but he persisted and said as long as both of us felt Kayla was capable of speaking for herself he would continue until Kayla said she had enough. Half way through the third and last day, Kayla actually relented and called “red” to stop, not just the particular activity, but the immersion.

She went to sleep very early that day and we let her sleep in the next.  She slept for almost 18 hours.  Before she went to sleep we spent a lot of time with her, reassuring, lots of after care, and that continued the next day, and luckily J didn’t come home until late that day.  That gave us pretty much the entire day to focus on Kayla.  

She was chipper, and said she felt refreshed, but a bit sore, like after an intense work out.  We went easy on her for the whole day and pretty much took the day off from any DD.  She reflected positively on the experience and felt very good about reaching her limit.  She had no regrets, which was a relief to Mike and I as we thought perhaps things got a bit too intense.

She said she definitely wants some of the M/s things in her new contract but agreed she doesn’t want to try to live the immersion 24/7.  For one, it just isn’t practical for us, but more importantly, it isn’t what she wants.   She has already shared a draft and has made several edits.  She also wants to plan for another immersion in the summer.  Yikes!  That is asking a lot of Mike.  I plan to somewhat repeat my  M/s immersion from last year.  (J spends at least a week at my parents during the summer).  

It all makes for a funny conversation – talking about how to accommodate Kayla’s submissive needs and desires as well as mine.  If anyone overheard us they would think we are crazy.  Maybe we are!    Crazy happy, that’s for sure! 

NEXT: 126. Catching Up (on spankings and other stuff)

 

 

 

 

 

 

29. A girl has no name – a Submissive Frenzy

Your kinky ideas are needed.  Please read on.

As I watched the latest Game of Thrones episode I kept seeing examples of submission.  

  • The faceless men of Braavos have basically submitted to whatever mysterious order they are a part of.  As part of Arya’s initiation into the order, she must lose herself, and thus, must lose her name.  That’s pretty deep submission.  Of course the upside is you get to shape shift and assume any identity you want so you can be a ruthless assassin, but hey, we all got our kinks.  (This comparison makes me a tad uncomfortable as Arya is only 15 or 16 years old, but hey now, let’s move on).

  • The sect called the Sparrows are very much about submission as well.   They marched Cersei naked through the streets as part of her submission and atonement.  Their goal is to strip a person of everything that is false so that only the truth remains.  Hey, even the High Sparrow has his kinks.

  • The Knights of the Watch are also about acts of submission.  Those who “take the black” give up whatever life they previously had to live the rest of their life on the Wall.   Hey, even the Lord Commander has his kinks.

See a theme here?   I am seeing submission everywhere. 

I’VE GOT SUB FRENZY!
If you read my  last post you’ll know I am struggling with where I want my submission to lead me.   I was fortunate to read a blog about Sub Frenzy and I immediately recognized that is what I am going through.  It’s reassuring to know that it is normal, but that recognition doesn’t lessen the hunger inside of me.

Idea #1:
Mike and I talked about attending some social events in our area that we found on Fetlife.com.  Our thinking is that being around like-minded people and having me be submissive in a more public environment may satisfy my hunger.  That, and there is that opportunity of perhaps finding others I can “perform” for.  I definitely need to do something to satisfy my hunger for submission.

Idea #2
Another thought Mike and I are tossing around is a “submission immersion day.”   We’d make it a one time event on a weekend when our son is at my parents and then see if it should recur each month.  The idea would be to have a really intense 24-hour period of submission.  We’ve thrown around different ideas of what that might look like, and even got some feedback from John and Donna.    I am open to any suggestions if you have any.  Please share!

To give you an idea of where our minds are, here are some ideas we’ve been kicking around. 

  • I could be tied naked to our bed where I can’t move my arms or legs, I am blindfolded, and my ears are covered.  Perhaps earplugs and headphones playing white noise – just so I can’t hear what is going on around me.  Perhaps I am there for an hour or two and at any time Mike can come up and do whatever to me.  Spank, slap, pinch, insert, whatever.  And then he goes away and comes back again whenever.  The sensory deprivation along with the thought of not knowing what he’ll do or when already drives me crazy in a good way. 
  •  Other thoughts was that during our immersion day I would remain naked all day and if I come into a room that Mike was in I could only approach him on all fours and I can not speak at all to him until he gives me permission.

Any other ideas??  Please share?

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