I’ve shared a couple of stories of my youth — Post 64. Strip Quarters and Post 73. Pube Shaving Party. Since I’ve brought up naturism, in my last two posts, now seems like a good time to share one more story of my youth. Before I do . . .
NUDIST VS NATURIST
I learned from E, the preferred term is “naturist” not “nudist.” To some, nudity connotes sex, whereas naturist connotes nature. “Naturist” was coined about 125 years ago by those who partook in the nude lifestyle. “Nudist” was a term created about 90 years ago by media. Focusing on nudity gave it a more prurient connotation, at a minimum to sensationalize it, at worst to vilify it. The words are often used interchangeably now, but E is sensitive to the differences in what they mean to her, so, I too will use the word naturist.
Naturism can go deeper than simply rejecting clothes. It can encompass how we embrace nature. E said her parents have a minimalist lifestyle, concerned about keeping a “reasonably small carbon footprint.” They don’t shun electricity or modern advancements – they own a car and have all the modern conveniences. They keep their possessions to a minimum and focus on conservation and recycling.
We haven’t met them yet as they live in another state. It is possible we may meet them at the naturist resort we are looking into. It will be an interesting introduction for us, to say the least.
YOUNG JENNY GOES SKINNY DIPPING
In my prior post I shared my fondness of being naked. That fondness plays a role in my first orgasmic sexual experience (not counting masturbation). I think I mentioned before, but if not, I had sex with a girl before I had sex with a boy. By the time I had sex with a boy I was a very experienced virgin – but that will have to be another story.
The sex would have happened without the skinny dipping, but I wanted to share the full story to illustrate my penchant for baring it all, even when I was younger.
It was the summer between 8th and 9th grade. I was 13, Amy was 14. She is just two weeks shy of being a full year older than me. With my birthday being just before the cut off to start school, and her age is just after the cut off, we were in the same grade despite an almost one year age difference. I was often the youngest in my class, she the oldest. Not a big deal, but it can be at that age, especially when it comes to physical maturity. Adding to her 11 month head start, she was an early bloomer, I was a late one. Yeah, she had boobies way before me.
Amy’s parents had a really nice house with a large pool in their backyard. The backyard was secluded, at the top of a steep hill with no houses behind it. The two houses on either side were offset such that they didn’t have much of a view of the pool, and any potential view was obscured by many trees. They had a gravel driveway, which, while out of view, was actually close to the pool and made enough noise that you could always hear any car driving up. The perfect storm for clandestine teenage activities.
We had seen each other naked countless times throughout childhood. Amy was well aware of, and subject to, my proclivity to be in the buff. I would often swim naked when her parents and brother weren’t home and even stay naked after the swim. For years she refused to doff her swimsuit. One day she finally relented.
From then on it became routine for us to swim naked if her parents were at work and her older brother wasn’t home. It was comical because each time we heard a noise she would scurry to put her suit on. Well, it wasn’t long until her brother caught us. He was with a friend who parked at the curb and walked up to the house, thus we didn’t hear them.
He was 18 and had just graduated high school. He was a “man” in my mind, plus was Amy’s dorky older brother. No one was interested or thinking anything about sex (at least I wasn’t and I don’t think he was). I wasn’t embarrassed, but Amy surely was and was yelling, “Don’t tell mom and dad, don’t tell mom and dad!” I calmly walked over, naked as can be, and talked to him and his friend. I bargained with him not to tell.
He said no to my offer for him and his friend to simply join us in our “clothing optional” swim (much to the chagrin of his friend). But, it didn’t take any convincing to get him to accept the offer of feeling free to watch me that day or any other day. That, plus, he had to agree to not tell anyone else or invite any other of his friends over.
I was happy because it meant more opportunities to be naked as we didn’t have to worry about her brother being home. By the way, in retrospect the thought of this horrifies me. I put myself in a very vulnerable situation being naked in front of two 18-19 year old guys. Even though I had every reason to trust Amy’s brother, I didn’t even know his friend. In hindsight I was foolish and very fortunate that they both ended up being deserving of that trust.
At first Amy decided swimming naked in front of her brother was too much for her, so she kept her suit on. Once again, eventually she said, “What the hell,” and went naked. At first we got a lot of attention, her brother and/or his friend would hang out by the pool and watch. But eventually they tired of it other than an occasional peek out the window.
MY FIRST “REAL” SEXUAL EXPERIENCE
If you’re keeping score, both Amy and I had boyfriends in 8th grade that we allowed to feel us up. She had even let her boyfriend suck on her breasts — I was the prude who hadn’t gone that far. Ha! Beyond that, there was some rubbing of privates over the pants, but neither of us had “touched dick” nor been fingered (other than by our self via masturbation). And we had both experienced orgasms, but again, only through masturbation. Okay, back to the story. . .
After one of our swims, Amy and I were in her bathroom drying our hair. We had bottoms on but no tops. We were talking about things we often talked about – such as boys! The conversation turned to another common topic of ours – our breasts. More precisely, her abundance and my lack of. This was a normal conversation for us to have. It was not sexual. We always openly talked with each other about our bodies, even about masturbation.
At some point I asked her if I could feel her boobs. I was just curious. I had actually done this once before, about a year or two earlier, but they were much bigger now. She said yes, so away I went. Unlike before, this time I really went! She stood in front of me as I played with one, then the other, then both at the same time. Squeezing, poking, prodding, and pressing and pulling her nipples between my fingers.
I don’t know how long I did it for, but it surpassed the length of time to qualify as platonic. While my eyes were focused on her breasts, I became aware of her breathing as her chest would slowly expand and contract, and the sounds of inhaling and exhaling grew louder. I finally looked up at her. Her eyes were closed, lips were pursed. I clearly excited something inside her.
I smiled. Even though it was not my intent, I knew she was feeling something sexual. I kept playing with her breasts until her eyes opened. When she saw me looking into her eyes she quickly got embarrassed and said, “Okay, enough of playing with my boobs, let’s get dressed.” I could tell she was uncomfortable so I didn’t say anything about it. That was that.
The next day we were hanging out in her room and Amy says, “Hey, it’s not fair you got to feel me up. I want to feel you up now.” I took it as her just teasing me and said, “I did NOT feel you up, I was just curious to know what they felt like.” She continued teasing and said “yes you did, yes you did.” I finally said “Fine, then if it will shut you up, then go ahead, feel me too.” She did.
She also felt and felt and felt. Needless to say, she also excited something in me. I started to feel her up too. We played with each other’s breasts for quite a while. I actually don’t remember who went first, but at some point we began sucking on each others breasts. And that was that.
That night I remember masturbating to thoughts of Amy. The first time I ever had such thoughts. I didn’t feel bad for thinking this way. It was the early 80’s, I didn’t know anyone who was gay or bisexual, or even really know much about the terms. I didn’t even connect my feelings with any of those terms. It wasn’t about feeling “that way” about girls. It was simply feeling that way about my friend Amy.
The next day, at Amy’s, we stayed in her room the entire time. We got naked, kissed for the first time, fondled, and fingered until each of us had an orgasm. This was the first time that, other than through masturbation, we had been brought to climax. We went on to frequently have sex, eventually advancing to oral sex as well. And that was that.
Amy and I continued having sex throughout high school and college. All along it was important to me to make the distinction in my mind that I wasn’t attracted to girls, I was just attracted to Amy.
Only recently has it dawned on me that such a distinction is stupid. Why did I feel it was so important to make this distinction? I mean, I didn’t like every guy I saw, but I never felt compelled to make the distinction that any attraction to a guy was about the person versus the gender. That was just too obvious! So why then was it so important for me to make that distinction about Amy?
I think that it is simply due to the negative baggage society puts on us when we are attracted to the same sex. As if you are attracted to one person of the same sex you must be a sexual deviant that wants to have sex with every person of the same sex – thus, my distinction was important to me. This is, of course, just societal bull shit.
As I eventually came to understand, my sexual attractions, men or women, are based on the person, not the gender. And it is fortunate we now have a name for this – pansexual. No negative connotations, no negative societal bull shit baggage. We didn’t have that term back in the early 80’s. Pansexual! That’s me!