388. Now a word from our (non) sponsors

Ug. I have four half-written posts and can’t get seem to focus on polishing one up and getting it out. Until now. Not that this is all that polished, but hey, that’s how I blog! If you want polish, you wouldn’t be here!

We had dinner two weekends ago with three of the five couples from TJ’s and Kim’s COT. This last weekend we had lunch with the other two couples. Maybe in an upcoming post I’ll give you a run down of each of the couples. It’s a diverse group. We have plans to get together this Saturday for a “dinner party.” Aka, “Swinger’s Party.” That term seems so old fashioned, no?

Funny how we’ve made the word “COT” a normal part of our vocabulary. So much nicer than “Fuck Buddies.” But in our COT we are more than just “FB’s” We have all become friends. Even though we didn’t see each other during Covid, we stayed in touch as we are interested in each other’s lives. Plus, who wants to lose touch with a great FB? LOL.

So it will be interesting to see what comes of these new friends. Will this be a one-time thing? Once in a blue moon? Will friendships emerge? Stay tuned, as Jenny’s Kink World Turns!

Changing gears! For this post, I thought I’d share a bit what I did during my blogging hiatus. While I wasn’t blogging, I was still going online. I thought I’d give a shout out to sites I stayed engaged in and blogs I frequently read. I share these because I want to. My blog is not monetized — Thus, now a word from our non-sponsors. . .

PENPALS
I have about a dozen people frequently exchanging emails with me and a few more that do so on and off. Most are women, a couple of men and even one couple. Most sharing struggles or asking for tips regarding establishing or improving DD in their relationship. A few from experienced DD’ers who feel a kinship with my journey. And a few from single people or those in vanilla relationships who want a nonjudgmental sounding board for their desires and kinks. Mike has even got involved with emailing some of them wanting his advice and guidance.

I enjoy connecting one-on-one and it even became a reason I became lax in my blogging. But, while getting to know and “talking shop” with others is fulfilling, I missed the opportunity to put myself out there to the masses. I find blogging very self affirming and I was missing that affirmation. What? You thought it was about you? Nope, I blog for me. [Selfish bitch!] Hey, who said that?

BLOGS/RESOURCES/COMMUNITIES
Even when I wasn’t posting, I was reading! Not every blog I follow is kink related. Outside of kink, I follow blogs on topics like travel, fashion, baking, and homemaking But in the submissive kinksphere, here’s some of my favorites:

– Kinkly: Great sex positive articles and resources and hey, who wouldn’t benefit from knowing which butt plug is the most comfortable (or, if comfort isn’t your thing, which is the least so!).
– Submissive Guide: A great resource on all things submission. Has paid content as well. If your heart is driving you towards being submissive but all you can find online is rants from weird older ladies in open marriages , then Submissive Guide may be for you!
– Loving my Disciplined Life: Great blog of Marie’s journey into DD in her marriage. Everyone’s journey is different, with unique challenges and experiences. Don’t think that I represent anything other than my own life and experiences. I encourage you to read about others and know that those who practice DD are as diverse as those who do not. There are several others out there that I don’t mean to ignore, but Marie’s is one I tend to read the most.
– Spank your Wife: Written from the Head of Household perspective by a husband, Aaron. If you read a lot of his posts and you know me from my posts, you may wonder why I enjoy this blog. I admit there are many times I don’t agree with his reasonings, but something still connects with me. I think I connect to some of the stereotyping he uses, and, even when there are things I don’t agree with, I always respect his point of view. Even when I disagree with the motivations, I almost always agree with the methods and results. I can’t explain it other than after I read several of his posts I always feel more connected to my submissive mindset. And that connection always feels good. And I just think he is a good HOH, even if he wouldn’t be the right HOH for me.
– Sisters in Submission: A community of submissive women. I’ve mentioned this community before. By far the best I’ve every come across. No community is perfect, but Missy has done an excellent job of cultivating a positive environment for submissive women to share and grow. It skews more towards a slave mindset than just submissive, but ALL views and lifestyles on the submissive spectrum are welcomed if you agree your role is to serve your man. And the expected etiquette goes beyond just being respectful of others. There is an expectation that you encourage others as well – even if you don’t share their precise views. It’s not about who is “submitting correctly” or “submitting the best.” It’s about celebrating and validating what drives each woman to submit. Ugliness is not tolerated, which can be a challenge to police when you are a community of bitches and sluts. (That’s a Sister’s joke… but more serious than joking!). But as I stated, Missy boots those who are divisive or mean.
– Castaway travel: I’ve never use them but I enjoy perusing their travel packages and dreaming of our next nudecation. I’ve shared before that we’ve gone to a nudist resort. We were planning another trip just before Covid hit, thus canceled those plans. We have started talking again of planning our next one. It might just be at the same resort as last time, but I’d love to try one of these cruises. If you’ve ever done one of these, please comment and share your likes and dislikes.
– Beducated touts themselves as the #1 resource for sexual health and happiness. It is paid content, so you have to subscribe. If you are exploring sex and sexuality, whether alone or with a partner(s), and want straightforward insights and advice, this site may be for you. While delivered more clinically than kinky, make no mistakes, the topics are plenty kinky!

PORN
I could have just put this under the prior heading, but let’s call it what it is – a porn site! One of the things that we did in adopting DD was open up about our sexual fantasies (things that turn us on that we wouldn’t do) and our desires (things we would like to try). A way we did this was to peruse porn together. It’s been a lot of fun!

Yeah, there’s Pornhub and the like that is out there. We’ve perused them all, many more than once! But our goal as a thruple was to use online porn as a way to share our fantasies and desires with each other. One way we consistently do that is through BDSMLR!

We are Funsomethreesome on BDSMLR. It’s become a ritual for the three of us to sit down together, about once a week, and post stuff. Each of us is expected to log in periodically and find stuff to “like.” About once a week Mike calls us together and we screencast our phones on our big screen and go through images we “liked” throughout the week on BDSMLR. We talk about them and then we choose things to post to our BDSMLR blog, adding our comments for people to read. We might comment how we love what is being depicted, or would love to try, or just like thinking about but want to keep in the “fantasy” column. Ma ny times we are just being snarky and like to joke about what’s depicted. It’s a mix of sharing fantasy and real life, and as we say, viewers are left wondering which is which! Check us out and you’ll get some insights into Mike and Kayla’s dirty mind!

So there’s a sample of places I go when traveling down the online rabbit hole! I know I left some folks out, especially bloggers, but I couldn’t possibly list all the blogs I follow.

Okay, one unfinished post is now finished. On to the next one!

387. Glory, glory, glory x9!

Yikes. I did so well my first few weeks back to blogging. This last 3 week-ish hiatus was not intentional. Just one of those things.

One thing that has kept me busy is that we’ve been looking at properties! We want to move at some point, closer to T1 and J. Ideally have our own nudie-farm! Not that we are farmers or ranchers – we most definitely are not. But we’d like some acreage and are up for some small time things, maybe chickens and such. We want privacy, quiet, and less hustle and bustle atmosphere of suburbia. The thought of not having to put clothes on to roam my property excites me!

We don’t have a time table. Could be this year, next, or even year after. We want to find the perfect spot. We’ve seen several close to what we want, but not quite hitting all the marks. We might get less picky as time goes on, but for now, it has to be perfect. There’s been days of driving around with the real estate agent and we have also spent a lot more time at T1’s since we were often “in the neighborhood.”

I want to wrap up sharing our “Immersion 2022” with you so I can go on some great esoteric rants about submission! Hey, don’t click away just yet. That will be for another post you can ignore. This one is will be all about sex and perversion. You know, the stuff most of you are here for!

MYSTERY GUESTS
We had two guests that I will refer to as, as…. Hum. Not sure what to name them. Don’t want to use real names. Okay – I got it. Andrew and Lee. Both male. And yes, I know I am stereotyping on names, but Lee is Asian. It’s more a literary tool so you can better form a picture in your mind and remember who is who. And actually, his name is way more Asian than Lee! So there. I digress.

TJ invited Andrew and Lee as sort of a meet-and-greet with our COT. During our long COT hiatus, TJ and Kim ventured out on their own and have essentially formed their own COT. From what we were told, it’s more just “plain old” swapping. There is no DD, BDSM, or other kinkery involved. Their “other” COT has 5 couples, like ours does (okay, so ours is technically 4 couples and a thruple) . So like, Wow. Imagine the possibilities if all 21 of us got together?

But the purpose of the meet and greet wasn’t about aligning our COT’s. It was more about perhaps having more overlap than just TJ and Kim. Perhaps some occasional “guest appearances” from one or more couples into the other COT. Or, maybe it wouldn’t go any further than the two men joining us that day.

I’ve shared before that TJ is a doctor. Andrew and Lee are also in the medical field as is all of those in this other COT of theirs. So one upside is if our activities resulted in a medical emergency, health care expertise would just be a penis away! LOL. Okay, far be it from this submissive man-serving slut to be misogynistic, let me add, “or a vagina away.” As apparently one of the women is a doc! Oh, and I don’t know for sure how old they are, but seemed to mid-40’s, maybe 8-10 years younger then me and Mike. And apparently their COT has a broad age range, from a couple in their mid 30’s to one in their mid 60’s. Kayla will love meeting the 60-year old man! But that will have to wait as she has a more pressing engagement.

GLORY HOLE
Kayla has had a long time fantasy of working a glory hole. It’s like one of her top ten “Unrealized sexual fantasies.” The biggest thing keeping her from this is that blowing a bunch of anonymous cock is risky re STI’s. That, and, it’s not like there is a glory hole store waiting for applicants.

So, the guys (led by Mike) had an idea to help a girl out. They had constructed a make shift glory hole. It was basically a three sided, mainly plywood, enclosure or sorts, with um.. holes for dicks, on each of the three sides. I mean, that is what they are, so might as well call it that. They had it set up outside and was covered as a “surprise for later.”

When the two guest pulled up in their car, Mike blindfolded Kayla and told her she is not to see these guests. She was led outside and into the enclosure where she knelt down and was told to wait. Once the holes were filled with three cocks, she was told to remove her blindfold. “Surprise.”

The two strangers and TJ went first, then as each man, ah… tapped out, another took his place. Mike, John, Matt, and Jaime. And Andrew and John were quick to reload and even took a second turns. Before it was done, Kayla took nine in a row.

I was able to walk behind the enclosure to watch her in action. One in each hand, one in her mouth, sometimes rotating, and not stopping until they finished. She would sometimes stay, “Now I recognize that one.” or, “Oh my god, how many are there?” and “This is more work than I thought?”

When it was over and she walked from behind the enclosure, everyone cheered. Kayla loved it. Her main comment was, “Now that was a lot of cum. Which one of you girls is next?”

None of us other girls got to experience it. Maybe for another COT gathering! Fine with me. I wouldn’t object, but, it is Kayla’s fantasy (now reality), not mine.

After the gloryhole event, we all just sat around and talked, ate, and got to know Andrew and Lee better. There wasn’t even any other sexual activities with them. What we learned is that their group primarily just gets together to swap. Some of them are strict in that they only swap while they remain in the same room as their spouse, others don’t have that rule. And some don’t have any sex outside their marriage unless the other person is either in the room or at least present in the area. Andrew is one of those people but said he has some latitude such that the blowjob from Kayla is allowed.

It was interesting to hear others talk of the rules within their relationships regarding sex with others. It interesting to hear how people draw lines, sometimes in a rather pious way, when, you know, they are still talking about someone else fucking their wives. Makes me laugh. “Oh sure, sure, it’s not like you just let some guy you don’t know fuck your wife. You’re like, not kinky at all because you want to at least know a bit about him first and will only let him fuck her if you get to watch. Yeah, very normal and makes total sense.”

Not that I don’t accept people are entitled to their distinct kinks and rules surrounding them. It’s just that sometimes instead of just accepting them as kinky fuckery they want to “justify” it as somehow normal because of some caveat to the fucking that goes on. “Oh, my wife doesn’t let me fuck any woman I want. She’s more classy than that. But a blow job from a strange girl we’ve never met and I can’t see behind the glory hole? She’s cool with that.”

Those aren’t actual quotes. Just my interpretation of what they were saying. I just find it interesting. Not judging. As I say, “Everyone’s kink is strange and disgusting, except your own.”

So what of future meetings with Andrew, Lee, and others in TJ’s and Kim “second” COT? Matt and Jill have already spent time with most of that COT. Their “report” was positive, saying it was a different vibe than ours, but maybe because they were the outsiders/newbies. Our turn will be the last weekend in May. TJ and Kim are hosting at their house. Should be an interesting weekend!

Okay, so enough sex talk. Let’s talk about submission! It’s not all sex and fun. It’s serious. Very serious.

Just kidding. No it’s not. It’s mostly sex and fun! LOL.

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