Before I dive into some of the most noteworthy happenings in my life over the last year, I thought I would first bore you with the mundane. Hey, who said that? I heard several of you say, “Damn, I was hoping she would have changed after all this time.”
Anyways. . . I wanted to say that my marriage is as strong as ever and life just keeps getting better and better. I am in a great place and am loving life, every moment, every day! The DD life has continued and nothing really that noteworthy to mention on the DD front other than it remains a constant in my marriage.
So let’s talk the more major life events I mentioned on the prior post.
Which topic should I try to address in this post? Our navigating the pandemic? T2 getting married! T1 and his wife having a baby– yep, I am officially a grandma who likes to fu.. um, er, ah… moving along. How about sharing a bit about some houseguests we had over the last year? Let’s see. What else did I mention on that last post?
AND BABY MAKES FOUR?
Okay, I will address the baby topic first! I had thoughts of dragging it out and addressing the other stuff first, but, okay, okay, to the more dramatic changes first – or at least, planned changes.
If all goes as planned, Kayla will be pregnant this fall, maybe as early as July. And the father?
But let’s not jump ahead.
Here’s a recap for those who haven’t etched all things DDJenny into their memories. Kayla is 27 and moved in with us at the end of 2016. About two years later we had our official/unofficial wedding, publicly acknowledging our love and acceptance of her as a wife. Whether it was biology or catching baby-fever from T1 & E, or some other trigger, Kayla came to us last year expressing a desire to have a child. She is well aware that Mike had a vasectomy, and was thinking that, if we all agreed, we could either find someone or use an anonymous donor.
BEFORE SOLVING FOR SPERM
The first order of business was to talk about the seriousness of bringing a life into this world. We naturally did the math and were like, “Oh, when the baby is 18, Kayla will be in her mid-40’s and we will be in our early 70’s.” What would that be like and what would it mean to the child and to all of us?
Beyond age, is our lifestyle conducive to raising a child? What’s the impact on us, and of course, most importantly, what will be the impact on this new human? Yeah, all of that needed to be sorted out before we even talk about procuring the sperm.
I wish I had been blogging during this dialogue. I know I had more varying thoughts cogitating in my head when we were first talking this through. But to be honest, I quickly came to a conclusion, as did Mike, that we would fully support this. And it quickly went from supporting it to deeply wanting it! We are all excited!
Every aspect of the “baby business” can be addressed with a simple word – “love.” Where there is love, there is a strong foundation for a happy and joyful life, and our household is full of love. Our lifestyle, ages, and “everything” IS conducive to raising a healthy, vibrant, and loving child. And that’s because our “everything ” will adjust to be what it needs to be to make it so.
That doesn’t mean we give up things that are important to us. It simply means we pursue them in the context of an even higher priority. So some things will change and some won’t. “We” will remain “three” and our power dynamic and sex lives will continue — all within the framework of new priorities.
SOLVING FOR SPERM – BABY DADDY ?
I will try something new with my blogging. I will try to keep them a little shorter and post more frequently. No promises, but maybe that will create better posting momentum. So with that, stay tuned because in March 2023, I’ll tell you how it all worked out! See ‘ya then.
Just kidding. Give me a few days. I will share how it came about that Mike, vasectomy intact and all, WILL be the biological father if everything works out.