I suspect everyone has learned and experienced something new since the arrival of COVID. Like a lot of you, we have had to spend an extended amount of time together, and for us, that means a lot of “thruple” time, with little to no engaging with others.
Early on in the “lockdown” we were still going to my son’s farm a few times a week. They are isolated and we felt safe interacting with them, plus I felt it was important to stay connected with J, my youngest, who is basically living full time on the farm with T and his wife.
As time went on it became clear it wasn’t necessary for J to see us. Yes, it was a bit of a hit to the mom-ego, but it is mixed emotions of pride in seeing my baby bird fly and sadness that such flight means distance from me. Plus, the risks of interacting outweighed the benefits. COVID is additionally concerning to us because of J’s underlying health issues. Even a run-of-the-mill respiratory issue could send him to the hospital. So, as of about a month ago,we stopped going to the farm.
FOCUS ON US THREE!
And, of course, we haven’t been engaging with our friends or family, including our “Circle of Trust.” We took (and continue to take) this Covid stuff seriously. The result is a lot of extended and uninterrupted time for the three of us to focus on, well, . . . on the three of us!
It has been nice to go two months without any kinky-fuckery outside our marriage (yes, I use the term marriage to include Kayla, legally recognized or not!). All three of us are in agreement that our sexual activities with our friends, while extremely fun and fulfilling, were becoming a substitute for the three of us spending time together and connecting. We’ve come to appreciate focusing more on just each other, sexually and non-sexually.
We still plan to “play” with our COT in the future, but we plan to not lose sight of the need for the three of us to focus on us. We have long had designated “date nights.” One night a week where Mike and Kayla go out, one night for me and Mike, and every other week a night for me and Kayla. But the three of us going out together wasn’t a scheduled thing, and was becoming rare. We plan to change that. While there will still be one-on-one date nights, we will make sure there are regular one-on-one-on-one date nights as well!
Date nights have continued throughout COVID, but instead of attending events, dinner, movie, club, or whatever, the dates have been a drive and walk around the park (sometimes more than just a “walk” in the park wink-wink, nudge nudge).
We discovered that we all love these walks (with or without impromptu sexual acts). It has been rewarding to simply walk hand in hand and do this strange thing called “talking.” Sure, we’d talk over dinner in the past, but it isn’t the same type of intimate, reflective, and uninterrupted conversations you can have during a stroll in the park. While we have a lot of meaningful conversations twice a week during Maintenance, the vibe is different. Maintenance is more of a dutiful and structured thing. Still extremely important, but not the same as the dialogue we have outside of Maintenance.
US VERSUS THE WORLD
I guess what I am trying to share is that we’ve been able to connect in a different way, a more meaningful way, over the last two months. It isn’t like we were feeling disconnected pre-Covid. We simply didn’t know what we were missing.
We feel even more connected, sort of an “us versus the world” mindset. Not in an adversarial way, but a sense of a purposeful existence. It’s as if the three of us feel like our purpose for existing is to complete each other, to be a part of each other, to be one “thing” composed of three people. The rest of the world does nothing to add to this one “thing” thus it is as if the rest of the world does not exist. Maybe “us without the world” would be a better term than “versus” the world? This mindset makes what we have felt all the more special, warm, loving, safe, secure, and meaningful.
The three of us talk about this feeling as we all sense it and connect to it. HOWEVER — funny thing is, we also agree we can’t wait for it to be over! We feel that while it is amazing to feel so extra connected during these times, that ultimately we all need to engage the world around us, including the people in that world. An indefinite “us without the world” would eventually make us feel isolated, alone, and yearning for interaction outside our pod of three. We know that because it will soon be three months of that and we are already yearning!
We are still enjoying our “three’ time. But we also look forward when that focus can be on how the three once again interact with the world around us. And that interaction includes the mundane of just crowded streets, people we see at stores and the strangers who enrich our days with their antics. Who would have thought those things held any importance in our lives?
Oh, and of course, we look forward to f**king the friends within our COT. Lol!
Okay, time to talk about something more lurid and erotic. Next post will be something more sex-related, which, let’s be honest, is what you most want to read from me!