324. My husband reads my emails!

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Mike was reading my blog, something he occasionally does.  BTW, he has access to all my accounts – email, blog, Facebook, Twitter, you name it.  It’s been that way since the start of our DD.  He doesn’t check them often and probably checks my emails more than anything else.   

It just dawned on me we have never stipulated this in our contract.  Is that a loophole for me to change all my passwords?   My butt thinks not.   

I think I would lose an appeal to the D2C3.   You know, the Domestic Discipline Contractual Compliance Committee.  I thought of consulting the D2C3 presiding judge, the Honorable Judy Back (of course, we know her better by her nickname Honor Back).  I decided against it as I really don’t mind this rule.  I’d rather save submitting a formal D2C3 request for something really big.    

Is there a point, Jen?   

Why yes there is.  Mike teased me that I couldn’t do a short post about a topic if my life depended on it.  He’s probably right, but maybe I could if the stakes were avoiding a red bottom!  So, was this short enough?   

No?  Shorter still?  Okay, I’ll give it another try on my next post. 

 

323. Assume the positions

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In the prior post, I said I’d share some common positions you might find me in.  As in, find me in while having sex, just in case you think any of these are my natural state. 

Well, in typical Jenny style I instead decided to share with you what I know will be a life-altering and inspiring esoteric rant.  If you follow it, it will change not only your life but change the world in ways you can not imagine. 

Or, I could just attempt to titillate you by writing about sex.    Let’s vote!  

Life altering insights that will lead to a lifetime of fulfillment and world peace or titillation?    

Okay, it was closer than I thought as I forgot that I also got to vote.
Titillation 212, Esoteric Rant 1.   Fine, titillation it is.  

SO MANY FROM WHICH TO CHOOSE
Sexual positions depend on if we are talking one-on-Jen, two-on-Jen, three-on-Jen, and the gender combinations involved.   

Consider that with “J” for Jen, 1-1 sex includes MJ and FJ.  Threesomes include MMJ, FFJ, and MFJ.  Foursomes?  Well, MMMJ, MMFJ, MFFJ, FFFJ.  That’s nine different combinations, each with numerous positions.   So many fabulous positions from which to choose.

We like to name our more common and favorite positions.  It adds a lot of fun to it – as if sex with multiple people requires the need for added fun!  hee-hee.   Here are some things you won’t find in the Kama-Sutra (and some that you probably will, albeit under a different name).

FOURSOMES
Four-Square:  This is a name we came up with and it obviously involves four people.  Thus far all the guys we’ve been with are heterosexual (why is that??).  Thus a four-square is either 4 women or 2 men and 2 women.  Basically laying on the floor in a square-like pattern.  If 2M2F, it looks like this:  The first man is orally satisfying a woman who is simultaneously orally satisfying a man who is simultaneously orally satisfying a woman who is simultaneously orally satisfying the first man.  It completes a square!

Hold my hand:  This is another MFMF foursome position and one I really like.  It’s pretty simple.  Say Mike is entering me from behind while I am flat on my belly on the bed.  On the other side of the bed lays Kayla with some guy entering her from behind.  She and I are holding hands, and typically staring at each other (or perhaps kissing). I also like this if Mike is the one having sex with Kayla or the other woman.  That way I can look up and lock eyes with him as well.

THREESOMES
Clearly, a lot more of these as we get to “practice” these almost every day! See if you can spot my favorite.

The Standard or the “Go-to”:  We call it this as it tends to be our most common position.  Sometimes you just aren’t feeling creative!  Simply, Mike is entering me from behind and I am eating Kayla’s pussy (or we swap positions).

The Triangle:  This is the threesome version of the Four-Square but often takes on more gymnastic-like qualities.  While sometimes it can be the three of us laying in a triangle position providing oral to each other, sometimes it gets a bit crazier.  Usually involving Kayla being suspended almost upside down.  Basically, she and I are in a 69, with me on the bottom, but then Mike comes in and lifts her legs over his shoulders.  I then suck Mike while Mike eats out Kayla, who is still eating me out.   It can work with three women as well.  

The Watch:  This is when one of us “takes watch” and the other two have sex.  It could be any combination of me, Kayla, and Mike with one person “on watch.”   Often, the “on watch” person masturbates.   Also works with three women or two men and a woman.

The Side-by-side (aka Mike’s Choice):   Another simple one.  It’s where Kayla and I line up side by side for Mike to choose and rotate between the two of us.  We might be side-by-side on our backs, on all fours, or head-to-toe such that he can put his cock in a pussy or ass and then take it out and put it in an awaiting mouth.   It also is a variation of “The Watch” because whoever is not being attended to by Mike will often masturbate and watch.

The Kayla Sandwich (and it’s variation, the Jen Sandwich).   In the Kayla version, it is where Mike is entering Kayla from behind while Kayla is laying on top of me thus, head-to-head where we mostly just make out.  Thus I am on the bottom.  It’s basically like Kayla is the meat inside a Mike and Jen bun.   We do this sometimes where a man is in the bottom position and the women gets DP.

The Mike Caboose:  There is a variation where Kayla is the front of the train and one where I am the front.  When I am in the front, Mike is entering Kayla doggy style and I am in front of Kayla doggy style with her mouth going at my pussy and/or ass.

The Over-Under-Inbetween:   Kayla and I are in 69, and Mike is entering whoever is on top from behind.  So if I am on the bottom, it is like Mike is OVER Kayla, I am UNDER Kayla, and Kayla’s face is IN BETWEEN my legs.   Thus the name! It’s basically like the “sandwich” except the bottom two layers are 69 instead of head-to-head.

Jen’s Feelin’ Lazy (and it’s alternate, Kayla’s Feelin’ Lazy):  In my version, it’s where I am laying on my side, and Mike basically spoons me, entering either my pussy or my butt.  Kayla is left to figure out where she wants to put her mouth (typically starts with a kiss, works her way to suck my breasts, and inevitably ends up on my clit and pussy.  It’s likely she will get some oral in on Mike, and possibly some ATM action with this move.  Hey, I’ve prepped for anal!

Sharing the treasure:   This is simply two people going down on one person at the same time.   It could be any combination of two of us going down on the remaining person.  This one is one of my favorites when I am one of the “down” people.  I love sharing Mike’s cock, closely watching someone as they suck and we suck together.  And I love sharing a pussy with Mike.  Gets me all tingly just thinking about it.

MORE THAN FOUR
The Morph: 
This is a group-sex position that basically, isn’t a position at all.  It basically just means our bodies morph into different positions with different people at different times.  You just go with the flow!

STATIONS OF THE JENNIFER:  (also variations for Kayla and other women).  This isn’t one position.  It signifies completing several positions with me.  We joke, “Hey, Matt, you haven’t completed the ‘Stations of the Jennifer’ yet?” This simply means vaginal, anal, and giving/receiving oral sex.

For those of you that haven’t ventured into threesomes, foursomes, or larger groups, one thing that may surprise you is just how casual the conversations are.   Thus jokes like “Stations of the Jennifer” are common.  We are all adults and no one in the room has reservations or hang-ups about what we are all doing.   It is good fun, where “Would you eat my pussy?” is uttered as casually as, “Would you like me to get you a drink?”

DISLIKES?
One position comes to mind that I haven’t liked and may say no to depending on who is involved.

THE CRADLE:   I hug Mike and wrap my legs around him where he can enter my vagina, and some other man comes and enters me from and in the behind.  Basically, I am suspended, held up by Mike’s arms and my legs wrapped around him while I am being double penetrated.   What I’ve found is this requires the holder (Mike in this example) to pay attention as a lot of weight (my entire body weight) is bearing down on the two cocks.  One slip and it can hurt me and one or both cocks.    While nothing significant has occurred, it’s been discomforting enough that I typically opt out of this unless I feel confident they will ride me in a way that keeps their dicks in me at all times.  It’s when they slip out and go in for re-entry that the pain can occur.   Even when it goes well I can’t always fully enjoy it as I am always anticipating a mishap.  The Cradle is best left to the muscle-heads and waif-like women   

Sex can be a contact sport! 

Enough detail for you?

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322. Sex as Recreation

 

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My recent posts have been a bit bland for you kinksters.  While I threw in a few kinky topics, such as Cuck, Swinging, and NRE,  I’ve been light on details.   Multiple inferences of sexual activities and explorations, but, “Where’s the beef?”

It’s just that I am a shy and modest person.  I am sure you know how hard it is for me to share personal details.

NOT!!!

Don’t you think it is better for me to hint around TTWD and let you use your imagination?  I bet your imagination is far steamier and raunchy than my reality!

Well, maybe not.   After all,  in addition to the sex the three of us have, there is a rarely a week that goes by that we don’t get together with others to play with.

And we still make it a point to have our one-on-one date nights at least once a month, whether it is me and Mike, me and Kayla, or Mike and Kayla.  

Okay, Jen, those aren’t details.  Spill it!

When three men are available, it’s common for me to have all my holes filled at once.  In case that’s too vague, I am speaking of my mouth, vagina, and butthole.  There!  Detail enough for you?!?

I enjoy it, but if I have to pick a favorite position, it’s two men at once – one doing me doggy and the other in my mouth.  And my most favorite is when Mike is the one in my mouth and I can look up at him and see his eyes watching what is going on.  Hey, you’re the one that wanted details!   Okay, probably not enough detail for most of you kinksters, but what else do you want to know?  I am sure you don’t want to know what orifices the guys cum in, or anything about other pretzel-like positions I get into.  What you really want to know is, how does this make me feel?   Am I right, or am I right?   

What?  I am wrong?   Oh well, sorry kinky devils out there.  In Jenny fashion, I can’t just share an activity,  I have to share how it makes me feel and unfortunately that will take up all the time I have.  Well, indulge me and maybe I will answer those two questions at the end.

OBJECTIFICATION
I find being with three men at once is more of an emotional experience than a physical one.   It isn’t that I am not feeling things physically – I certainly am! –  It’s almost a sensation overload with one amazing feeling after another vying for my attention.  Mixed in can be moments of discomfort.  Not pain, else I stop, but let’s face it, DP can be uncomfortable sometimes.

Whereas with two men at once, I find the perfect balance between my physical and emotional pleasure.  It hits three emotional buttons for me.  (1)  I know Mike is enjoying me enjoying myself.  (2). The taboo nature of it is never far from my mind.  (3) I love the feeling of objectification.

When it is three men at once, the physical pleasure is less, but the emotional feelings are amplified and focused on a singular feeling of objectification. I am not complaining.  I like that feeling, I just like the more balanced feelings I get from two-on-Jen versus three.

I know, I know.  Many of you probably think it’s terrible to like being objectified.  Sorry, but feeling attractive and sexy feels good, and it feels good for the same reason that feeling unattractive and unsexy feels so bad.  It just does.   

There are risks in objectifying yourself or allowing yourself to be objectified.  There are studies that show objectification is like an amplifier for how one already feels about themselves.  For those with high self-esteem, which I count myself as one, objectification can be a boost to your already high self-esteem.  But for those with low-self esteem, it can create a post-objectification drop in their well-being.  

The positive feelings of objectification can become addicting.  Which can become a challenge as the interest others may have in our beauty and body fades as we age.  It can also create a terrible cycle for those with low-self esteem, chasing the “high” following the post-objectification drop in their well-being.

Yes, the emotional chemicals in our body that come with objectification can be really bad on the psyche.  Just consider eating disorders and body shaming that many women do to themselves, let alone the body shaming and judgment that society does to us. Suffice to say I don’t take this “thrill” from objectification lightly.  Especially when it comes to Kayla.

Although I am well past my prime in physical beauty, I find that as I got older the decrease in my vanity was accompanied by a decrease in the fucks I give.  Humm… In the context of this post perhaps that colloquialism doesn’t work.  I mean, literally, I am writing about the actual physical fucks I give (and receive).   And as my vanity decreases, I am sure giving a lot more of those fucks!  LOL.   

My point is, I am a self-confident person when it comes to being happy about all aspects of who I am and what I do.  Thus I feel I have the strength to experience the highs and avoid the lows of being objectified.   But such strength mostly comes with age, and Kayla simply has not had the time to develop it.   

I talk to Kayla a lot about TTWD, especially when it comes to the sex she has, even the sex she has with me and with Mike.   ANd when I say “a lot” I mean it.  I am constantly checking in with her about how she is feeling.  She jokes we have our own daily Maintenance Sessions, minus the spankings of course.  She is far more “addicted” to multiple partners at once than I am.  She clearly gets a greater thrill than I do from being objectified.  It worries me as I wonder if she truly just loves the thrill for thrill sake, or is she needing a “fix” because of a drop in her feelings of well-being?

In our conversations, I am convinced that she does have a handle on this and maintains a healthy psyche about her self worth.   It’s not perfect, as we all have blind spots or moments of self-doubt, but nothing indicates to me that this has been unhealthy for her.  HOWEVER – we have dialed things down.   More on that in a bit, but first, here’s one more tidbit to share.

ANONYMOUS SEX
Since I am in a sharing mood, we’ve done a new thing since the start of the year regarding anonymous sex.  Mike arranged it with people we met from the swinging scene.

At one swinging gathering we attended at someone’s house, Mike had us stand blindfolded, not speaking to anyone during the “mingle” phase of the evening.  He then led us to one of the bedrooms that had two beds.  Kayla and I got naked and laid on the bed, leaving our blindfolds on.   We were instructed to stay quite and not speak to anyone.   Men then came in and, well, “came in.”  lol.    Just two men for each of us (as if “just two” means this is totally acceptable and normal).

SWINGING SHADE
Afterwards Mike led us back out to the “after swap” mingling and we removed our blindfolds.  It made the conversations very interesting as we tried to figure out who we had sex with. I kind of figured one of them out when their wife said something to me like, “Oh, you’re that blindfolded one my husband had sex with.”   Her comment had this weight of indignation to it.  I promptly scanned my eyes over towards her husband and then scanned my eyes over her body.   I then told her, “I dunno.  I don’t think so.  He got to pick and I think he wanted something different so he went with the younger, firmer, more petite one of us that was blindfolded. Bitch!”

Hee-hee.  I added that “Bitch” part.  I didn’t really call her that.   

DIALING IT DOWN
I mentioned a few posts ago that we have dialed down our sex play.  We’ve noticed a pattern where there are times we venture outside our Circle of Trust (mainly John/Donna and Matt/Jillian), only to retreat within the confines of our COT.

Mike felt we all were getting a little too “addicted” to the thrills and he was concerned that it could lead to becoming careless.  While we all like to explore boundaries, there is a difference between realizing you may have exceeded a boundary versus realizing you’ve damaged your psyche.   Not that we’ve gone that far, but Mike is always overly cautious.  He’s that way about practically everything in life.

A little about Mike – which in 300+ posts I haven’t really shared much about — He has always been a cautious person.  So much so that in his younger days his primary “risk management” style was to avoid risk at all costs.  In that respect it’s amazing he asked me to marry him!  Ha!    But he slowly learned that to fully live your life means you can’t avoid everything that carries risk.  Living life is a risk.   So while he never ignores risk, he has learned to mitigate it when he can and fully accept it when it makes sense.

In his words, he said that when it came to making decisions, he was always focused on the optimal outcome, versus the fun and experience in the journey that can lead to any outcome.   As a result, there were many journeys he never took, fearing the outcome would not be optimal.  Now, is that living life?    Of course, then he married someone with the slogan, “Love life, every moment, every day.”   You can imagine the friction this created at times.  Such friction was eradicated with our DD journey.

So let’s face it!  Sex has so many positive health effects as this article highlights.  So as long as we have an honest and open dialogue about all things sex-related, I feel confident that all three of us will continue to benefit from what is one of our favorite hobbies – recreational sex!

FOR YOU KINKY F’er’s. 
I promised if you stuck with me I’d answer the question about what orifices the guys cum in as well as share other pretzel-like positions I get into.  As for cum, it depends.  Within our COT, anywhere is allowed.  Outside our COT, it’s a case-by-case thing.  Sometimes it’s allowed in or on me, other times it is not.   A girl’s got limits!  lol. 

As for positions, well, this post is long enough.  I will save that for my next post.  Consider it a tease!!!   

Next: 323.  Assume the Positions