Continued from the prior post.
To help you with a mental picture of Chelsea, although she is 23, she can easily pass for 18 and with just a little effort, maybe even 16. Her height is about all that helps her appear a bit older as she is about 5′ 9″ and while I didn’t ask, I would guess maybe 115 – a very small frame. And the ringer for a more youthful look is her light freckles on her nose and high cheekbones that accentuate her already looking baby-face.
Her husband is on the burly side, maybe 220 on about a six-foot frame but not all fat. He’s muscular in a toned way, not super-buff. Stout! That’s it. He’s very stout. He looks even bigger when next to Chelsea. We’ve met him on several occasions as well. He’s more reserved and timid, whereas Chelsea is unfiltered and unedited.
Chelsea said after about two years of marriage she began having desires to be disciplined by Jaime. She started to miss the accountability and the motivation that the disciplining instilled in her, and yes, even a closeness she felt it could bring to her and Jaime.
While generally not someone to keep anything in, it took her a long time to say anything because she felt that she was betraying herself in a way. How could she want that? She didn’t want to be like her mom. How could she submit to be under the authority of her husband? That just isn’t right.
It nagged at her even to the point she acted out in negative ways. Passive-aggressiveness is one way we attempt to cope with unresolved emotions, and she became full-on passive-aggressive. After many arguments about stupid things that she often started, she knew she had to come clean and confess her “ugly desire” to her husband.
When she did, he 100% rejected the notion. And not just the idea of it, but the idea that she would even consider it. It made her feel terrible as in her mind it confirmed her fears that something must be wrong with her. But his rejection didn’t make those feelings go away.
So she pressed him from time to time, slowly increasing the frequency of broaching the topic. Finally, one day she really pushed his buttons and he spanked her. He was apologetic afterward and swore to never do it again, much to her chagrin. More time went on, another year and her passive-aggressiveness deepened. And then, Chelsea met Kayla. Then Chelsea met me and Mike.
Chelsea was like a sponge, wanting to learn everything about our journey into D/s. She said it opened her up to a greater understanding of what it could mean to be submissive. Until she met us, she just thought if she were to accept discipline from Jaime, it had to be just like her parents. In her mind, her mom was weak, cornered, and incapable of understanding this just wasn’t normal. Now, Chelsea knew DD could be anything they agreed it could be. Like me, she could have DD, Chelsea-style. If Jaime would agree.
Armed with a better understanding of her own emotions and how to better articulate them, she once again brought up the topic with Jaime. This time he didn’t reject her outright and at least said he was open to understanding it better, which led to our meeting Jaime.
It also led Chelsea to talk to her mom about DD, something she had never done in a true, open dialogue. Chelsea had brought it up before, but always in a judgemental way. Now, their conversations were more inquisitive and less inquisition. In turn, Chelsea learned a lot about her mom and her dad. While she still didn’t agree with everything they did and do, she had a greater appreciation for it.
Armed with new confidence and a more open-minded husband, they made an attempt at instituting some DD into their marriage. While Jaime was open-minded, he was still very reluctant, to the point that he asked Mike to help. This led to Mike actually spanking Chelsea in front of Jaime to give him a more step-by-step break down of things he should consider in a spanking, including the after-care. It got to the point that Jaime even called Mike to come over to administer several spankings as Jaime felt he just wasn’t doing it right.
Jaime was very concerned with hurting her, both emotionally and physically. It took some time for Jaime to feel confident that the “right” way was whatever way he felt comfortable with and that Chelsea accepted. I didn’t keep count, but I think Mike probably spanked her on seven or eight occasions.
Jaime still calls or texts occasionally to get advice on discipline. I have to admit I am a bit jealous as I like to be the advice-giver, but in this case, Mike is their de-facto “mentor.” They have even asked him over just to talk DD (and they have been over to our house as well).
Jaime feels like he has a new wife, the wife he first fell in love with. Her passive-aggressive behaviors are gone, and they are closer than ever before. As they say, Spanked Wife, Happy Life. Um, er, okay, that’s not how it goes, but it sure does for some people!
ISLAND OF MISFIT KINKSTERS
I feel a bit like our household is becoming the Island of Misfit Toys, except it is the Island of Misfit Kinksters. Those people who feel they are doing it all wrong, or are having trouble reconciling their desires with societal expectations or simply looking for ways to express those desires in a safe and nurturing environment. There is my friend Valerie, and some of my other “lunch bunch” friends who have opened up a bit and shared some of the kinks they are into. This also applies to Matt. Oh, and John and Donna too. And yes, of course, Kayla.
And then, we met TJ and Kim.