296. Piercings and Pubes

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If you haven’t figured out by now, I lack an ability to be succinct.   I am not one to say in a few words what I can exhaustively analyze, deconstruct, and put back together in hundreds of words.  See, even then I couldn’t just leave it as an inability to be succinct.

I thought this would be a quick post.  Simply to state that I let my nipple piercings close and have been growing my pubic hair.    

Done.  End of post!

Not.

JEN IS EMBARRASSED?
I am not one to normally feel self-conscious about things, whether it is what people think about TTWD, or about my appearance, or really about anything.   However – I found myself becoming more self-conscious about my nipple piercings and pubic hair.  

It’s ironic that our nudism was part of the trigger for this uneasiness.  After all, I’ve found that nudism makes you less self-conscious and more accepting of your body.   Yeah, I get it.  I can try to rationalize away my uneasiness, but sometimes, you just can’t.  You feel what you feel and you just have to deal!  Emotions don’t care about logic.   

Pre-nudism, my piercings and pubic hair were private and limited to the purview of those involved in TTWD.  But now that we are full-fledged nudists, well, it ain’t so private anymore!  And had a growing self-perception was that I was putting out a message that didn’t represent me or my thoughts.  Something had to change.  Those thoughts weren’t changing, so, the piercings had to go, and the hair had to return. 

HAIR DOWN THAIR
For the longest time, Mike had me and Kayla with the same “look” down there, whether it be hair or no hair.  But then Mike went through a phase where he had one of us sporting one look while the other sports another.  “Visual variety” as he calls it!   Um, okay, as if our different physiques weren’t visual enough.  Mine is not to question why.  Mine is but to do or get spanked!   lol

My self-consciousness over this started when I was bare and Kayla was bushy.  It started to feel to me like I was putting out the perception that I was trying too hard to do what the young folks do.  

And it wasn’t just my mind comparing myself to Kayla.  When we are at T & E’s farm, I am often the only one bare down there.   At times the 17-year old has been bare, but it messes with my mind either way.  When she is bare, I feel like I am trying to “style” myself after the teenager.  When she doesn’t, it compounds my self-consciousness that I am the odd one.  

NIFTY 50
Part of what was going through my mind is that I am going to be 50 later this year.  I also think 
my tattoo added another wrinkle to a weakened psyche.  Not to say a 50-year old can’t rock a new tat along with her nipple piercings and bare pussy. . . but THIS 50-year old?  Why do I want piercings drawing more attention to my vein-marbled-droopy-boobies along with looking like I am trying really hard to “compete” with Kayla?

Adding to what was influencing my emotions — I am only around naked women who are younger than me, and sometimes much younger.  Kayla is the 24-year old with the awesome figure, yet no nipple piercings.  (She did pierce her nipples and clit shortly after moving in with us, but let them close-up only after a few months).  

Again, I get it.  I know there is nothing wrong with anyone of any age piercing whatever they want to pierce, or having their pubic hair in whatever shape or length that they want, or getting a new tattoo at any age.    It was just for me, all this added up to something my psyche wasn’t comfortable with it. 

THE GUYS?
For whatever reason, the pube situation in the men and boys has no influence over my uneasiness.  If you are keeping score, you can mark down Mike as one who goes back and forth with his look.  Frankly, he would probably leave it grown out but Kayla enjoys shaving him and he never refuses when she asks.  And as for other menfolk, it’s a mixed bag of various looks from bare to full to all things in-between.  

MIKE’S SELF-CONSCIOUSNESS
In discussing this with Mike, he shared that he also was starting to feel a bit self-conscious about the pube thing, but with Kayla.  H
e said the first time we were around others and Kayla was bare and I wasn’t, he started to think others might be inclined to think he wants Kayla to look like a little girl.  Like, it isn’t enough that she is so much younger than him, and is very youthful in her physique, but she makes herself look more like a little girl.  Wow, that never crossed my mind, but once he said it, I too had a hard time getting it out of my mind.

REFLECTION
We both know that the chances are good these thoughts are only in our mind and not what others are thinking.  And even if they aren’t 
thinking such things, so what?  Right?  Well, again, you can’t rationalize away some thoughts.   

It would be different for us if the “others” we are talking about were strangers at a nudist beach or kink-friends involved in TTWD.   But we are a family of nudists in a growing family of nudists.  I think that’s why, in this particular situation, I am more sensitive to thinking about what others might be thinking. 

I don’t mind people thinking odd or ill thoughts of me regarding our relationship with Kayla or any aspect of TTWD that they may be privy too.   If they don’t like it, well, too bad.   But, it bothers me to think that others may believe that I feel I am in competition with Kayla, and it bothers Mike to think others may believe he is into little girls.   To be clear, no one has ever indicated or implied any such things.   These are just things in our minds, but they are powerful enough that we have addressed them. 

And don’t think I am some fragile self-conscious timid and insecure person.   I am not.  But when it comes to my nipple piercings and my bare pubic area —  well, guilty!  

HAIR TODAY, GONE TOMORROW?
So piercings are gone and hair is growing back. 

I remain committed to sporting whatever type of pubic hair, or lack thereof, that Mike wishes, and will pierce whatever part of my body he wants me to pierce.  But for now, he has allowed me to remove the piercings.  And he had Kayla shave so that both she and I were bare together, and then we both have been growing it in for about a month now.

I sense at some point I will look back at this and not relate to feeling self-conscious and find my feelings silly.  But frankly, it is not up to me anyway.  I will share with Mike whatever it is I am felling at whatever time he may ask about it, and will abide by his demands.   I just hope he doesn’t ask for a bejeweled butterfly a la the image I used on this post!  Then again, maybe I can usher in a new trend for the newly 50-somethings!

Next: Post 297. Love without Limits.  My Ode to Blogging. 

28 thoughts on “296. Piercings and Pubes”

  1. You may consider your breasts to be imperfect but that doesn’t mean they’re still not as beautiful as “perky” breasts of a younger woman who may not have had children yet. Despite how you may feel about them surely they’re still lovely and sexy just the way they are and hope you can embrace their beauty, imperfections and all.

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    1. Thanks. Yeah, I am overstating things when I imply I don’t like them. I do. They are mine! And that’s precisely why Mike likes them too. He embraces them often… I mean, he embraces their beauty, as do I, imperfections and all.

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  2. Once again you (collectively) have given food for thought. And, once again, you have shown the value of communication in a relationship. No matter the decisions made and paths followed, it is always good to hear the thought process and see you find balance.

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  3. I’m kinda guessing that being around younger women and in the nude could be influencing the way you’re thinking – and Mike’s commands notwithstanding. Once upon a time, being all nice and bushy down there was the thing but these days, people have a love/hate relationship with pubic hair but, sure, if you’re gonna be really going au natural and in the nude, why not really go natural and let the pubic hair grow in?

    I can see how the pierced nipple made sense when you had it done so, sure, maybe it doesn’t make much sense now despite, um, baggy boobies – but short of getting them lifted back into youthful perkiness, they are what they are; they’re yours and you should not be “ashamed” to draw attention to them with tasteful piercing… if Mike allows it.

    I’m 63 and I have 14 tats and I’m not self-conscious about other people seeing them – but I don’t have any anywhere that shouldn’t be seen publicly, if you know what I mean. Only my ears are pierced – two holes in each ear – and I know some people can think it odd that a guy my age still wears earrings… and, frankly, I don’t care what they think about my earrings (real diamonds and sapphires) or my tats.

    Hell, I’m still trying to get up the nerve it’s gonna take to get a really nice back piece – it’s seriously gonna hurt so good.

    Now, I’ll confess to keeping my pubes trimmed… most of the time. It makes me laugh my ass off because I can’t grow any hair on the top of my head… but down there? It wants to grow like crazy and, eventually, it’ll get on my nerves so it has to get knocked back. Some guys are seriously into shaving themselves bald down there but I’m prone to getting ingrown hairs and some that, when I tried shaving, required surgical intervention to fix so, nope, not doing that anymore. My wife gets on me for being “hairy” and too much for her liking – and this coming from a woman who, if she had five pubic hairs, she’s making a mad dash for the clippers. So, okay, I do some manscaping so I don’t have to listen to her bitching about it but it’s a chore and one that, in my now older age, eh, I don’t feel like being bothered with.

    Either way, I don’t have the time or a need to feel self-conscious about any of this – it just is what it is and if others don’t like it, all they can do is not like it and if I were into domestic discipline and my mistress demanded it, well, let’s just say I’d be getting punished a lot and leave it at that, okay?

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  4. My sister always told me that only men who were pedophiles liked bare vaginas, but not only was she wrong (she tended to be highly judgemental) but she was wrong about my reasons for shaving. I just don’t like it growing too much. I’ve shaved like this for years, long before I became sexually active, and I did it for myself. I wanted to see what it was like and decided I prefer to be bare. HD says he doesn’t care, but he has expressed delight when I am freshly shaved. “Oooh, smooth!” or something similar. So far, none of my doctors have expressed any care about my hair (or lack thereof), and I have had a lot of doctors poking around down there. As long as they can do their jobs, most don’t care what state the hair is in.

    In the end, it’s about what is comfortable for the three of you.

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    1. Not that i agree with your sister – I’ll be clear, I DO NOT – but it was knowing some think such nonsense is what weighed in my mind. I know i shouldn’t care, but like i said, i couldn’t rationalize this one away, at least for the time being.

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      1. I didn’t agree with her either, but I’m aware that there are more people than just her who feel that way.

        It’s natural to have some concern about how others see us, humans are pack animals at heart, even the most confident and self-assured among us. 🙂

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  5. Jenny-
    Got to do what Mike commands and makes you happy- the hell with everyone else! If your on point for the breast reduction- have to take them out anyway. You can always revisit posts 51 and 73. Watch out for the itchy.

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  6. I don’t understand people who like children but pubic hair styles (and the lack there of) have nothing to do with children. If you are becoming uncomfortable because of it, by all means change and grow it back. My Queen knows how much I love a clean shaven mound. For virtually all of our relationship she kept a nice neat landing strip which I liked but then in the fall she chose to go bare. This is a look I love!! I have no say in how long she keeps it, but I’m hoping for a long time!

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    1. To be clear, i agree that liking clean shaven pubes has nothing to do with children. Especially by now as the trend has been popular for like 20 years now. People generally accept it as a personal choice and nothing more. However, for us “older” folks who sort of missed out in that trend, and in the context of our nudity, we just can’t help how our minds think about it as it relates to us. I am all for the bare look or any look for any age if that is what someone wants.

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      1. My comment wasn’t meant to judge you for your decision. But as I’m older than you (my Queen too—a little bit) shaving has been around longer than 20 years. When I was a young man, it turned me on. It wasn’t super common then, but still many were doing it. And that’s 40 years ago.

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        1. I know you weren’t judging. Wish there was a “I know you are not judging” font. 🙂 And I suppose pube shaving has been around as long as there have been pubes, but it wasn’t the NORM until the 90’s. Just shows how abnormal you are, hee hee (insert jest font).

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  7. It’s a strange thing isn’t it? Our emotional self consciousness…. I shave almost everyday and it’s never been something MrH decreed. He just asked me to be “trimmed” and as I tried to keep things tidy, I would shave a leaving a landing strip trimmed short. As time went by it got narrower and narrower (as I tried to keep it ruddy even!!!!) and eventually I just shaved the whole thing off!

    I do sometimes wonder, when I’m visiting the Dr with a down there problem, what she thinks but then I remind myself that she’s probably seen it all!!

    I also worried about “looking like a child” but the rest of my body is definitely adult, and if someone was ever to say something I would probably respond that MrH loves giving me oral sex and my being clean shaved means he doesn’t get hair in his mouth. That would probably shut them up (and make them blush)!

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    1. I love that response in the event anyone says anything. It’s exactly the sort of thing i am apt to say. I love making people uncomfortable if the dare make a snide remark. I once got a look from someone on public when i was holding hands with Kayla. I told them, “what can I say? My husband likes our girlfriends young.”

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