Wow, almost 3 weeks between posts. That’s a record for me.
Couple of reasons for this respite. Same old, “life got busy” stuff but also we had flu bug hit our house. First me, then my son. It probably accounted for about four or five days of being all off schedule. Then there was just other things we can file under “stuff happens” that kept me at bay.
The most noteworthy item regarding my DD household will, of course, be about Kayla. But before that….
Oh, by the way, March 17 was the two-year anniversary of us adopting a lifestyle of Domestic Discipline! Still loving it and I can’t imagine myself living any other way!
Okay, back to Kayla…
Her original “contract” is up soon and she has been anxious to update and replace it. She found this “play” checklist that she used to articulate her desires and limits, and suffice to say, there were only a few things on this checklist that she marked “no.” It really is a well thought out list. I encourage you to check out it.
For some of the items it was a “yes, but…” but again, very few no’s. Kayla has recognized that she has a desire for a much deeper submission a more Master/slave versus Dominant/submissive. Much like my Submissive Frenzy, and my subsequent M/s immersion, she is craving more subjugation. Before she codified her terms of subjugation, I strongly encouraged her to have her own M/s immersion. I wanted her to first experience some of the things she was craving and make sure they really “scratched the itch” in the way she anticipated.
Spring Break gave us a great opportunity to do this “immersion” as there was a three-day period where J would not be with us. He and his cousins were spending time at my parents. Let the immersion begin.
I am not going to share many details as those details are about Kayla’s journey, not mine. But I will share a few observations.
Kayla went in confident that the immersion was an introduction to a new way of living versus just a trail that would soon end. She prepared herself in some pretty extreme ways. She shaved off all her hair, from head to toe. She got her nipples and her clit pierced, which is a fun story by itself that I’ll try to remember to post about later. Just know that Kayla, who can take a spanking like pro, is not fond of needles and didn’t even get her ears pierced until she was 17. She would tell you that she had more trepidation over getting those piercings than she had about the immersion.
For me the most extreme things was shaving her head and eyebrows. She said she wanted to look different and to her it represented starting anew and growing anew. It was very emotional for her. She cried when she first looked in the mirror, but not in a sad way. She said she was overwhelmed with a euphoria and a sort of extra sensory reaction from seeing the visual representation of starting a new journey. It wasn’t a bawling type of cry. She was smiling and chuckling as tears streamed down her face.
We got a general agreement as to what she was looking for in her immersion. She didn’t want to give Mike or me too many specific requests or guidelines. Through the checklist she told us what would be acceptable, plus she went over a range of ‘acts of service” that she wanted to have expected of her, and sexually she said she was completely at Mike’s disposal for anything, any time, – and anyone – that he commanded. She wanted to be surprised and have her limits pushed. So push we did, especially Mike.
I am not comfortable sharing much about it. I think perhaps in some ways it is because it was more than what I would want for myself, so I have a little harder time connecting to it enthusiastically. I also had to see Mike be the Master and again, in ways that were more than I would want for him. I had to keep my mind focused on Kayla’s wishes and focused on her happiness. Spoiler alert – she was happy with the entire experience. However, I still don’t have the enthusiasm to write about it, plus, it was such a personal journey for her that I don’t want to risk diminishing it through my own interpretations. It was something for her and not intended for me, so why risk taking her experience from her through my own analysis of it?
The things she did and had done to her were very intense, both physically and emotionally. So much so I don’t even want to relive it in writing. There were a couple of times I told Mike I thought it was too much, but he persisted and said as long as both of us felt Kayla was capable of speaking for herself he would continue until Kayla said she had enough. Half way through the third and last day, Kayla actually relented and called “red” to stop, not just the particular activity, but the immersion.
She went to sleep very early that day and we let her sleep in the next. She slept for almost 18 hours. Before she went to sleep we spent a lot of time with her, reassuring, lots of after care, and that continued the next day, and luckily J didn’t come home until late that day. That gave us pretty much the entire day to focus on Kayla.
She was chipper, and said she felt refreshed, but a bit sore, like after an intense work out. We went easy on her for the whole day and pretty much took the day off from any DD. She reflected positively on the experience and felt very good about reaching her limit. She had no regrets, which was a relief to Mike and I as we thought perhaps things got a bit too intense.
She said she definitely wants some of the M/s things in her new contract but agreed she doesn’t want to try to live the immersion 24/7. For one, it just isn’t practical for us, but more importantly, it isn’t what she wants. She has already shared a draft and has made several edits. She also wants to plan for another immersion in the summer. Yikes! That is asking a lot of Mike. I plan to somewhat repeat my M/s immersion from last year. (J spends at least a week at my parents during the summer).
It all makes for a funny conversation – talking about how to accommodate Kayla’s submissive needs and desires as well as mine. If anyone overheard us they would think we are crazy. Maybe we are! Crazy happy, that’s for sure!
NEXT: 126. Catching Up (on spankings and other stuff)
6 thoughts on “125. Kayla’s Immersion (and “slappy” anniversary to me!)”
Getting like minded people to work with and support each other is important now. Sometimes the only stupid questions are those that remain unasked.
I wanted to comment, otherwise I’ll be up all night. 🙂 My first thought was, as an author, fiction can never duplicate the actual actions. Every time I read your posts, that realization is brought home again. It struck me tonight, that the reason why, is that the most difficult thing to portray in fiction, is emotion. Just that one paragraph about Kayla shaving off her hair and eyebrows revealed a depth to her commitment that would be very difficult to write about in a fictional sense. It makes me want to interview her, both of you in fact, in order to create the fictional characters in my stories.
I read through the checklist. It is safe to say that most everything on the list would be a no. A hard no. Unlike many other people though, I’m not on the ‘holier-than-thou-express’ since I learned long ago, one person’s disgust is another person’s fetish. Not to mention, repression only squirts out in very unpleasant manners when least expected. That, is something that fiction does very well, by shocking us out of our complacency.
An interesting fact is that both vinyl records and printed books have not only stabilized their downward free-falling trajectory, but have begun to slowly increase in sales. It turns out that people like having something tangible to own when they discovered that the digital cornucopia wasn’t actually free or safe or all that great. I mention this in context to your post, because real relationships are so fragile and take more work than simply pressing ‘publish’ or ‘like’.
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Feel similarly to much of this. The relationship between the 2 people is easy to empathize with as it is more human in some ways than the society or at times those participating. What I mean is there is a higher sense to it than the surrounds. Also fascinating is the narration of the above comment. I would have just read the post otherwise but the reader expressing what they have above has given birth to another dimension of it to me. Some of that I was aware of. Very interesting to hear other writers in such a space
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Well said. And in the one part of your comment, the way I have put it before (but not in the blog) is “one persons disgust is another delight.”
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And if you have any Q&A for us, happy to oblige. You can steal ..ahem, be inspired by any and all of what I share if it helps you develop a richer character.
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