I’ve realized that I prefer to blog about things that have happened several days ago and/or have reached some sort of conclusion versus blogging as events unfold or where the implications are uncertain. I think I am just more eager to share something once I have reconciled it in my mind. I guess that’s why I tend to be upbeat in my posts (or at least think I am). With some exception, I tend not to post during times of indecisiveness or worry. The result is I tend to write when I have good feelings about resolved situations and optimism about the future. Not sure what that says about me, but, it’s a pattern I’ve noticed with myself. This is defintely one of those posts!
Anyway, I thought I’d post about Kayla but in a different way than before. More about what she has meant to me and my relationship with Mike.. You could call our marriage an “open marriage” but that label is not entirely accurate. I would call it “situational openness.” Thus far the only situations where we have swapped partners or had sex with others or threesomes has been with John and Donna, and with Kayla. We are completely comfortable with that and plan to continue, but no plans to expand that – but also not adverse to it if the right situation came up.
Whatever you call this openness, we are new to it. It hasn’t been six months since our first “swinging” foray with John and Donna, and of course, the stuff with Kayla is just since the end of last year. So while it is new to us, it also seems so natural and old hat to us.
NEW ENERGY! Spankings as recreation?
Having Kayla living with us has injected a new energy into an already energetic household and relationship. It’s like the thrill of a shiny new toy, and we all are serving as each others plaything in one way or another. Not just sexual, although that is a big part of it, but even in just conversations about every day things and in sharing more about our ourselves and life experiences.
Kayla has injected a greater playfulness than Mike and I have. She likes to role play and set up scenes and roleplays for us. Like a choreographer, she sets the music and lighting, and will pick out the toys. Sometimes it is just us being us, but often she will give us a general idea as to the roles, from teacher/student, to doctor/patient, to master/slave, etc. It is really fun and something I know Mike and I wouldn’t do on our own. Not because we are adverse to it, but, it just isn’t something we do – but we do now – with Kayla!
The “scene” thing is entirely new to us. Except for some “punishment” play with John and Donna, Mike and I have kept spankings and what not exclusive to punishments. These scenes with Kayla are new in that spanking, flogging, etc., are all just in play. A very different sensation. I can’t explain it, because it may be the same intensity, or perhaps not, but the body reacts very differently. It is more self-indulgent and more sensual.
WE ALL ARE BARE DOWN THERE!
Another playful thing she did was to shave Mike’s pubes! Mike never went bare down there and she was encouraging him to give it a try. She finally just took it upon herself and hopped in the shower with him, scissors, razor, and shaving cream in hand, and he finally relented. I think it makes him look a bit funny – not sure what it is – perhaps I am preconditioned to think of hair as masculine, and seeing him bare down there is emasculating. I know that is just a personal bias, but it is how I reacted. I never said anything and told Mike I was happy with whatever he decided regarding keeping it or not. In my mind I was sure I would grow to like it and just needed to get used to it. Mike kept it shaved for a little more than a week and just started to let it grow back.
KAYLA’S SEX DRIVE
Kayla also has a pretty large sexual appetite. She admits she has never had so much sex as she has had in the last month or so. A day doesn’t go by that she isn’t involved in at least two or three acts, and she hasn’t slowed down. She really loves to perform oral sex. While she likes to perform it on me, she really loves to perform it on Mike. I’ve “caught” her giving head on many occasions. Anytime there isn’t anyone else home, I can pretty much count on running into Kayla on her knees with Mike’s cock in her mouth. I’ve even been awaken in the middle of the night from movement on the bed, only to roll over and see Kayla down in the sheets going at it. I am perfectly fine with all of this. I am not possessive of Mike when it comes to sex. I get plenty of love and attention and sex from him and I am not threatened by him enjoying himself sexually without me. I actually get a thrill from it.
Last weekend Kayla had anal sex for the first time. She enjoyed it. She had been practically begging for it and Mike was putting her off, just to tease her. Well, tease no more. It was nice to watch someone, especially someone you love, experiencing something new for the first time. It went well, and has been repeated several times.
MIKE AND KAYLA TAKE A ROAD TRIP
Today Mike and Kayla left for Orlando. Mike has a business meeting and Kayla is tagging along. Although he just has one meeting tomorrow and could return home tomorrow night, they are staying tomorrow night and Friday night. They’ll be back Saturday. I know it is weird and a bit hard to admit, but, I love this. Much like Mike’s date night with Donna (shared in Post 90), I get a thrill from this. I enjoy knowing Mike is having the time of his life, living a fantasy of being like a king. I couldn’t be happier to allow him that experience.
WHAT’S UP WITH JOHN AND DONNA?
Oh, on the subject of Donna, Kayla joined us one time over to John and Donna’s. Kayla hasn’t had sex with all of us — would 5 qualify as an orgy? Anyway, while no sex, there is a “topless” rule at their house that Kayla adheres to, so me, Donna, and Kayla remain topless at all times – of course, often Donna and I are completely naked. Kayla watched but didn’t participate. She just wanted to get a sense of what all went on before deciding what she may be interested in doing. Thus far she indicated she isn’t interested in sex with them, but would like to participate in the scenes. She showed a particular interest in the bondage horse and other accoutrements they have. I am certain on her next visit she will be trying out some of their toys and be more involved, perhaps as a spankee or other object of attention, excluding sex with John or Donna. We shall see.
I mentioned in my last post that we got a cane. It is rattan with a crook, like you would imagine belongs in an old school house. Kayla wanted it. Both of us have since been spanked with it. Gee, thanks Kayla! I don’t like it. I much more prefer the flat spanking implements (hand is still my favorite) than the sting of the cane. However, I will say I enjoy watching it used on Kayla. I admit the stripes it makes does something for me. It’s a turn on. Kayla likes it, and says she prefers it to the paddles. The downside is she can’t take as many with the cane as she can with a paddle so the experience, while more intense for her, is shorter.
Let’s see, what else? I am just trying to give you a full download of the various things that Kayla has added to my DD household. Oh, the chores! It is great to have a second set of hands to help out, and Kayla takes her cleaning responsibilities as serious as I do. In fact, she takes all her “acts of service” seriously. She is highly organized, even more than I am and that is tough to do. She gets a lot of fulfillment out of all the things she does every day. Of course, with two of us it has meant that we run out of things to do. When that has happened, one of us, or Mike, will then come up with something new for us to add to our lists. I must say my house has never sparkled so much! My pantry, closet, drawers, garage, kitchen – you name it, looks a bit like an anal retentive s dream. Make that wet dream, given we typically do all our housework in the nude!
I mentioned in my last post that Mike is becoming a bit of a hard ass. I say that lovingly and is something I have said to him in loving jest. Part because Kayla asked for greater rules and structure, and part because Mike is growing into a Dominant mind set. He doesn’t just limit his greater dominance to dealing with Kayla. I’ve been spanked for things I would never have thought I would be spanked for. The hangers aren’t all facing the same way in the closet, something wasn’t ironed well enough, or heaven forbid, I used something other than a loving tone in responding to him. Oh my god – I love it! Yes, as crazy as it sounds, I enjoy this. I enjoy it, Mike enjoys it, and Kayla enjoys it. While there is a lot of work that goes into all of this, it is packaged in a tremendous amount of love and play.
No matter what the dynamics of a household or your life is, life happens. That means there will be highs and lows along the way. I know we have had them and will continue to have them, no different from your life or anyone else’s. And don’t think I never have doubts. There have been evenings I’ve laid in bed after an unfulfilling day, with my nipples sore from the clamps that were applied that day, my ass throbbing from a spanking, and my body just tired from the busy day and I’ve thought, “What am I doing?”
Doubts don’t concern me. In fact, I would be concerned if I never had them. But each time I do I find it is simply an opportunity to reaffirm my confidence and love for the choices I have made.
While almost two years into adopting DD, I still love it, have no regrets, and remain excited about each day. I love life, every moment, every day! I am living a life of abundance!