I shared a bit of our daily routine on my prior post, and thought I’d share more about our evenings and nights – and there just might be a little spanking for you. I mean, a spanking story for you. Actually, as this post ran long, I’ll share the spanking on the next post.
My caveat to this “normal” evening is that this is based on just a dozen evenings of Kayla living with us. Perhaps too early to call “routine,” but whatever the name, we’ve established a bit of a pattern with our evenings. The times I give are approximate as there is a lot of variations to this depending on different factors, but this should paint a pretty good picture of our typical evenings.
We typically eat dinner a little early, between 5:15 and 5:30 and are done, including the cleaning, by 6:00-6:15.
6:00/6:30pm until 8:00/8:45pm
These hours can take many different paths. We may watch some shows together, one or more of us may play a game with J or help with his homework. Sometimes J will play video games or otherwise entertain himself for the evening. Mike may have some specific tasks for me or Kayla which we will attend to but we tend to have some down time during these hours. Kayla may relax in her room by herself, reading, journaling, or being on her laptop. I might work on this blog a bit and also journal.
At some point Kayla will clean and organize her room in preparation for her morning inspections. Kayla also goes to the garage to tidy up our cars – both mine and Mike’s. She will pick up any trash, clean the windows, and wipe down the car’s exterior. She leaves little “love” notes in both cars. They are short notes thanking us and wishing us well for the day, signed “Love, Kayla.” She puts them on the inside of the driver’s door in a sealed envelope marked with “K” to help prevent their being read by an unintended audience. These notes are cute and always put a smile on my face. I open my envelope right after I drop J off at school in the morning.
J goes to sleep from 8:30-9:00 – I mentioned before he tends to go to sleep early and typically sleeps 10 hours – so he is up by 6:30-7:00am. That’s a lot of sleep but it suits him well and we definitely all know it when he isn’t well rested. I mentioned before he has a disability and as part of that, a lot of anxiety/OCD issues. Part of his need for sleep is that every day is physically demanding and thus he is very tired by the end of the day. The positive with the OCD is that we can use his need for consistency and uniformity as a way to manage his day and one of those consistencies is his bedtime routine. He needs a little assistance to prepare for the night so anywhere from 8:00-8:40 is time for either Mike or I to help him. We don’t quite split this 50/50 – I do it a bit more than Mike, but Mike makes an effort to handle J’s nighttime routine quite a bit as is his preference.
We typically give J about 15 minutes of sleeping before we start Kayla’s nightly Maintenance Session. Her sessions have lasted from thirty to forty-five minutes. I participate in the first part to share my observations and get any feedback from her, but then I leave. I go shower and get ready for bed. I may be out of the shower and preparing for bed as Mike and Kayla are continuing their session, so I am still hear them a bit as our master bath is just off the master bedroom.
When her session ends, Kayla takes a shower or bath and prepares for bed. Assuming I am done she will use the master bathroom, otherwise, she uses the hall bathroom. Our bedtime rule is to be in bed by 10:30, so there is about thirty to forty-five minutes from when her session ends until bedtime. This can give us a little more time for some journaling or for me to work on my blog.
The first week Kayla was here she slept with Mike and me the first several days. Mike then came up with a schedule that I shared before where she sleeps with us Mon-Wed. Mike sleeps with her in her bed on Thursdays, and then Fri-Sun Kayla sleeps alone in her room, giving Mike and I our three nights together.
Mike typically stays up a bit so both Kayla and I will go see him just before 10:30 to say goodnight. On the first night that Kayla slept in her room, I went into her room with her and talked for a few minutes before it was 10:30. This has become routine and we jokingly refer to it as me “tucking her in.” More on that on my next post!.
10:30pm – ???
Some nights Mike will come to bed at the same time, but often he stays up a bit later. If there is any sex that night, it is based on the sleeping arrangements. So if Kayla is sleeping in her room, she is not involved in any sex between Mike and I, conversely, on the Thursdays that Mike sleeps with Kayla, I am not involved in their sexual activities. We didn’t like the idea of all three of us having sex and the one of us having to leave to sleep alone.
When Mike comes to bed after I have fallen asleep, sometimes I awaken (or he intentionally wakes me) and we may or may not have sex. Same for if Kayla is in bed with us. There have been a few nights of no sex, just like “normal” people! Also, some nights that Kayla was with us we would all get to talking after sex. I have even got up to work on a post (yes, if you see a late night post from me, it is typically after some fun sexy time!) while the three of us talk or Kayla and Mike continue to talk. I’ve even been working on the blog when Mike and Kayla will start the sex up again. I enjoy looking over and watching – a wonderful distraction when trying to blog!